Wednesday, October 11, 2006

I miss playing competitive sports man..I miss it in the worst way. I was briefly in a co-ed flag football league, but I dropped out for numerous reasons, and I thought playing basketball with a group of guys every Sunday morning would satisfy my competitive jones. But sadly is has not. It has been difficult to get everyone to come out every Sunday morning. Between girlfriends, hangovers, church, and preparation for the NFL, not everyone always wants to sacrifice their Sunday mornings for 2 hours of competitive basketball. I can't say I was a high school sports star, but I did run track, cross country and play basketball, and those are memories I STILL carry with me. We had practices, scrimmages, games and meets at least twice a week, and even gym class provided me with some degree of competition. Now? I have to do things like go to a batting cage, or play ball with high school kids(guaranteed to hurt any 30+ man's feelings) or shoot balled up pieces of paper in the garbage can, and hope someone notices my impeccable form as it goes in. I may have to rejoin that flag football team in the spring.

My brother (who has yet to leave a comment on this blog in the three months I've been writing, despite the fact that I've given him MUCH love on here), gave me an excellent book idea yesterday. He suggested that I spend some time writing about what it was like growing up in black middle class household. There are NUMEROUS issues to tackle there: racism in suburban schools from both white AND black teachers and students; Jack and Jill, the Links, and other black elite groups allegedly designed to help suburban Negroes, the feeling of detachment from parents who grew up poor, worked hard, and now have to deal with affluence..that subject is a gold mine. I personally can remember watching A Different World and School Daze, when I was in high school, and thinking to myself, a black college is definitely where I need to be. Lots of suburban Negroes, who were tired of feeling singled out in mostly white high schools, thought HBCUs, would be the solution to all of the angst and frustration. And for some students I'm sure it was, although I can't say I was one of them. Anyway, I'm getting WAY ahead of myself..the point is there is a good book to be written on this subject, and I just may do this.

I am curious to know what the people I know, as well as the people who may read this here blog, think about sex. A friend of mine told me last night, that people don't value sex anymore, and it is now treated as something to do, rather than something sacred. I ALWAYS treat sex as something sacred, which is why I try to so hard to make it damn good, once I'm fortunate enough to get me some. But I wonder if folks TRULY think that way, or are people jaded at this point. Questions like that always invoke passionate responses..especially from my fanatical Christian brothers and sisters(God bless all of y'all and you know who you are), but I really do want to know...)

7 comments:

Hannibal said...

Sex is sacred to me. So when i do find someone i make it damn good and they are my only partner. And i dont find myself trying to sleep around. It's not just something to do...It's a form of intimacy to me..and another way to convey how u feel for someone..call me corny.

hadassah444 said...

During the act, its more then about making a person feel good. Its about the love that can be manifested during the act. Let us feel good afterwards too....

We've gotten so far away from that...

LittleTortilla stays in DC said...

Sex is not really sacred to me. I guess I never paid attention in church because it wasn't until 2 weeks after I had sex that in Sunday School I found out that "thou shall not fornicate...ooops too late for that. So I attempted to reverse the trend. It caused much strife to try to not do something that I wanted to do so much. I attempted to hold it sacred but well....it just wasn't for me.

Now I just make sure I'm in situations where I'm comfortable enough to enjoy it be it 2nd date or 6 months down the road.

nichole said...

although i wouldn't say sex is sacred, it is beautiful, and you can't give it up all willynilly.

someone once told me that women think our stuff is so good that only a few can have it; men think their stuff is so good, everyone must have it. (this sentiment obviously does not take into consideration those who use sex as a bargaining tool or for barter).

i have other things to say about sex, of course, but i'll just leave it as that.

Anonymous said...

I think sex can only be sacred when its with the right person, someone you love. When sex is just for the enjoyment, that thats when it is just an act. Honestly I don't think there is any true fulfillment in having sex with someone you don't love.

Jo said...

Rashad PUHLEEZE . . . you VALUE sex? . . .now honey of all your blog comments, that is definitely the most blatantly OBSCENE and INCORRECT comment you have ever made . . .you treat sex like a commodity, NOT like a gift . . .as far as the book - it's already been done - my boss Randal Pinkett has one on that same topic coming out in February titled "Black Faces in White Places." So, not a good idea . . . you would be better served working on something that allows you to show your humor . . .you know how to make people laugh . . .serious doesn't look good on you . . . it makes you look BORING . . .and as for sex . . .it's non-existent to me right now, so that's my comment on the subject . . .non-existent!

Shaun said...

Jo, thank you for checking him. When I read those statements I had to move away from the laptop for fear that lightening was going to strike.