Tuesday, February 19, 2008

There are people in my life who I really enjoy emailing, and not talking to. Its not so much that I cannot hold a face to face conversation with these people, but it is more a function of efficiency. I find it to be much more efficient to cover all the important details via email. How are you? What's been going on? How are parents? Did you watch the game? I figure after a good 4 or 5 email exchange all of the basics are covered, and for at least two weeks or so, you really don't have to be bothered with one another. Again this isn't mean, this is called friend efficiency. However, every now and then, someone becomes restless with this arrangement, and they decide that they want to mess up the rotation a bit, and be a more prominent friend And this is when things fall apart and tend to shatter. Such a thing is in the process of happening to me.

I have a friend from high school, and we tend to talk once every 3 months. I have known him since I was 12, and we were close in high school, then we separated for college, and upon our respective graduations, we almost lived together back in 1997, but his girlfriend basically made the impossible. Since then I have seen him on the street, attended his birthday celebration, and traded emails with him, and I think that is pretty damn impressive. But he called me the other day wanting to hang out, and my face dropped. When I called him back yesterday, we pretty much covered all the important topics, yet at the end of the convo he proceeded to say, "Well yeah let's meet up soon". So what did I do? I decided to compromise. I will be attending this event on Thursday, and I invited him to come out as well. That way I can enjoy myself, then when things get slow I can talk to him a bit, and I can continue this back and forth for an hour or so, and then roll out with a guilt-free conscience.

That's not mean is it?

Why Can't It Wait Till Morning - Fourplay featuring Phil Collins

7 comments:

tia said...

that's actually a pretty good compromise. and you will be hanging out. i'm proud of you, rashad.

Sha said...

are u being social? *gasps* egads!

Opinionated Diva said...

I have a high school friend just like yours. I try to keep our friendship going through emails and get so annoyed when SHE gets annoyed with me for not being available to speak on the phone more. Ugh! LOL

Anywho...I think the event is a great idea. Who doesn't love Pete Rock?! Have fun.

maxwellsmusze said...

the old kill 2 birds with one stone. i'm grateful that my best friend realizes we both have a life and we can't always speak/see each other like we used to. a really good friend won't take offense to such shenanigans.

he really ain't missing much w/you no way! HAHAHAHAHA!

Jo said...

No, it's not . . .I think you did the right thing. He might need you as a friend right now . . .or he could just feel like he needed to say that. Whatever the case, good creative move on your part.

Chubbs said...

Not mean at all...and good plan. It's "refreshing" to hear that women are not the only ones who have difficulty maintaining the right "friend efficiency" balance.

lex said...

friend efficiency? STOLEN!

oh and good job on finding an equitable arrangement for you and your buddy. thats not mean @ all.