Friday, August 08, 2008

Each and every day when I wake up, I try to do my very best to observe the rules of chivalry. I do believe some of them are outdated, but there are others that are still very much relevant. I let the woman get out of the elevator or off the train first. I ask old ladies if they need help carrying things that seem to be struggling with, and every now and then I rescue homeless men from oncoming cars. I do this, not because I expect anything in return, but my mother raised me the correct way and she taught me how to conduct myself.

All that being said, yesterday my lady and I were headed into the drugstore. As we were getting ready to go in, a woman who looked to be about 25-30 was coming out. She had a tiny bag in her hand, and she was walking pretty fast. My lady paused a bit and waited for me to open the door, and I did so, and then I motioned for the other lady to come thru the door first, before my lady and I entered. She came through the door, and kept right on walking, without saying as much as thank you.

At first I was going to let it slide, and not bitch about it to my lady, but I simply do not have it in me to let things go. So I started bitching about her not saying thank you, and how wrong it was, and how many women have done that to me in the past. My lady said she could not relate on any level, because when someone holds the door for her or does something polite, she always says thank you(which is why she's my girlfriend). It isn't difficult to say thank you when someone does something polite. It requires little eye contact, you don't even have to say it loud, and it just makes everyone(most importantly me) feel good. One would could argue that I am supposed to hold the door for a lady, to which I would respond, you are supposed to say thank you. Its not hard.

This weekend is going to be incredible, and even though the weather is going to be off the charts, I really can't see myself leaving for much of anything. The Olympics, baseball and preseason football will occupy my entire weekend, and I cannot wait. I suggest you watch them too. Despite what recent developments have told you, there IS more to sports than Brett Favre.

Uninvited - Alanis Morissette

9 comments:

Chubbs said...

um, you've got some good manners, but sadly, others don't. And no matter how well-mannered you are, you just can't force it on adults. yes, it's annoying when you do something considerate and the other person doesn't acknowledge it, but i look at it this way: I didn't ask you to hold the door for me, so I don't have to thank you for it. On the other hand, if I asked, then yes, I should definitely offer up a "thank you." Don't get me wrong, I've got "home training," but I just don't expect other people to have it.

sad huh?

theradleyfiles said...

Brett Farrrrvrahhh!

Miss. Lady said...

Simply put some people just don't have any home training.

JazzBrew said...

I feel you on this one bruh. I'm always opening doors for folks and it bugs me if they stroll through and don't utter one word or even smile. Maybe I'm expecting too much (see chubbs comment above).

Going into my building at work I make a mental note of the folks who do this. Guess what? I don't open the door for them any more. It gets real good when they're packed down with stuff and struggling to grab the handle. I actually take pleasure in letting the door close in their faces.

I can hear my Mom now - "I raised you better than that." Sorry Momma...

Janelle said...

Okay is it racist of me if it bothers me EVEN MORE if the person is white??? It could be poor home training or a preoccupation with ones thoughts, put I always think they believe that brown people should be opening doors for them like in the olden days. hhahahahahahahaa

Question: when should a lady who has home training (aka me) say "thank you"? When you step back and hold the door, as I step through the door, or after I'm through the doorway?? I once had a dude scream on me for not saying thank you and I wasn't even through the door yet!

rashad said...

janelle,
this lady was white..but it happens to me with both races, so you people don't get a pass. and the thank you should come as you're stepping through the door. i'll email you the rules.

maxwellsmusze said...

what do you mean YOU people???

rashad said...

mm,
What do YOU mean you people?

£ex said...

unfortunately, some people are just jerks.

But you were a gentleman, and that says a lot for you.