Monday, February 16, 2009

So I tried to do this once before. After our trip to the bed and breakfast in Williamsburg, I was to do a guest blog entry. The ladyfriend speaks! HA. Well let me tell you this blogging bit, the way Rashad does it wasn't as easy as it looked. I found myself backspacing and deleting and even though Rashad loved what I'd written I had him delete the whole thing. I totally chickened out. As many of you loyal readers of this blog know, its been a few months of some pretty sad times for Rashad and I. Saturday, February 14th was to be the due date of our baby...and well you know what happened there. Anyhow, a couple months ago, I asked Rashad for just one thing for Valentine's Day and that was to make it a lot of fun. I didn't want THAT day to be sad or reflective or any of that. I just had a pretty invasive abdominal surgery just three weeks ago to this day and we weren't sure of what sort of shape I'd be in. Would I be able to move about, leave the house that sort of thing. Well, I'm recovering very well and I'd like to personally, or at least via this platform, thank all of you who've wished us well and kept us in prayer. P.S. I have a really cool picture of the 15!!! Yes 15 fibroids removed from my uterus. Rashad hates this picture but I am in the process of having it converted to a digital format so that I can gross out as many people as a mass e-mail will allow. Let him know if you want in on the action. Its pretty incredible.

Guess what? Rashad is a very thoughful man. Don't be shocked. He is only a fraction of the asshole many of you have come to love and/or hate. I don't brag too much about all of the fun we have or the thoughtful gestures as it will surely piss some people off or they won't appreciate it. This is where the people who don't wish a happy couple well should take off. Our Valentine's Day was more about sharing our time and enjoying each other than what my drunk friend Lanada best describes it as. A day of massacre and something about some diseased european saint. I didn't get flowers. Rashad gets me flowers all the time. Could be a Friday, could be a Tuesday and for no reason in particular. I got a ridiculously relaxing manicure/pedicure brought right to me and in our living room. I was watching Sex and the City and drinking a glass of white wine and it was divine. For dinner, his friend Brent came over and fixed us a restaurant quality dinner and I didn't have to do a thing. It was so damn tasty. I didn't have to show him where a single thing was because he brought all of his own kichen do-dads and whatnot and all the food. I was not even allowed in the kitchen. Rashad fixes meals sometimes and almost without fail I have to find or show him something he can't seem to find so yeah, that was kinda weird having a man in the there and not showing him where stuff is - Thatswhatshesaid:) Last, as Rashad has this weird thing about gifts in 3s, he had my Alvin Ailey print framed and hung. Simply beautiful.

I fear I've gone on too long - Thatswhathesaid, so I shall stop here in what looks to me as a big ode to Rashad. He truly deserves it. Even if this may seem sappy to some of you, this man has seen and been through a lot of crap over the past few months that most people would surely not be able to handle. Love endures.

12 comments:

Sab D said...

Awww ... fraction of the asshole - golden! (& true)

y'all stay strong!

Miss. Lady said...

Awwww... the entry was not sappy it was beautiful and so very special.

God's many blessings to you both.

theradleyfiles said...

Black Love! This was nice.

Jamal said...

Oh Lance........

tia said...

this is so sweet i might vomit :)
oh and please put me on the fibroid mailing list. i wanna see!

fayelonious said...

I feel sick- sike! I'm very happy for you guys- kisses! Love does prevail but pardon me I must go puke up my breakfast.

Jazzbrew said...

Yet another reason why THIS is my favorite blog. Always full of laughs, good thought and surprises.

Truly a pleasure to meet the lady of the Rashad's life.

Kawana Cohen-Hopkins said...

YAAAAAAY! I really think your strength is to be admired! You go and have the 15 framed and use it as inspiration. I'll take a look when you mass mail it.

~KCHOP

Janelle said...

I must cosign on everything that everyone has said thus far. After all you've been through, it's nice to know you could relax, smile, and enjoy each other with no pressure.
Okay, maybe I'll start believing in love again. No promises!!! LOL

(did Rashad really pull this off without a fraction of the asshole and no Black Larry David moments??!! Now THAT is priceless....hahahahaha)

£ said...

what in the treacle...?

*chunks rising**

seriously this was very sweet and it brought a smile to my face. all this love and stuff giving me warm fuzzies and whatnot. i can't take it! :)

oh and im with Rashad regarding the picture of the fibroids. i saw gallstones once when i was 10 and i'm still recovering from that. lol @ tia wanting to be on the mailing list.

GemEnigma said...

I love it! So glad to get the perspective of "the Other" about Crazy Rashad.

I hope you write again. You two are awesome. *hugs*

soft and subtle said...

Very nice entry from the lady friend. You guys have been through a lot but in the midst of it all have become stronger, wiser, and more in love than ever. May your life individually and together continue to be prosperous in every way... God Bless you both!