Friday, November 07, 2008

I'm 100% sure that I have written about this particular subject before, but given what has happened to me in the last 12 hours, I clearly have to revisit it.

There is a list of things that men cannot do together. I don't make these rules, I never got a memo explaining this things to me, there is no rules coordinator, they are just rules that were magically instilled in my brain and I adhere to them whether I like them or not. As men we don't watch Oprah without a woman somewhere in the house, we don't sit next to each other at the movies, we don't call each other and say happy birthday without saying "man" afterwards, and we don't go to the men's dressing room together. There are others but you get the point.

So yesterday, my father sent me an email about how excited he was that our next President is a Columbia University grad just like he is. I sent him an email right back, letting him know that a Hampton University grad was next, and then he did the unthinkable. When my father sent me an email back, he said, "The sky's the limit", and then he put a smiley face after that sentence. Now, I understand my father is almost 60 years old, and he might not be fully educated on the rules of engagement when it comes to trading emails with another man, so I can somewhat give him the benefit of the doubt. I also understand that 90% of my correspondence with him takes place over the phone and in person, but a smiley face? Really? As my boy Cliff said, if he's sending this to me, who else is he sending smiley face's too, and how much sex and respect has this cost him this year alone? I expect and welcome this behavior from my mother, but not from the man who continues to teach me how to be a man.

I didn't respond to the email he sent me, because I am verklempt and shell shocked. I want to call and make fun of him, but I don't want to hurt his feelings..then again, I have spent several paragraphs clowning him here, so why stop there? Something must be done though. By the way, the exchange wasn't all bad. The "sky's the limit" reference he made was pretty funny, and it references an exchange between the media and basketball player Micheal Ray Richardson(yes he spelled Micheal that way). Anyway, the Knicks were in a particularly putrid stretch and a reporter asked him this:

REPORTER: What do you think is happening to the team?
RICHARDSON: The ship be sinking.
REPORTER: How far can it sink?
RICHARDSON: Sky's the limit.

Even 25 years later, that is hilarious to me. So my Dad gets major props for referencing this, but that were IMMEDIATELY nullified with that smiley face...

(You Caught Me) Smilin - Sly and the Family Stone


Anonymous said...

You should have posted the's the limit by BIGGIE...or my flame by bobby caldwell..

ps. i'm sure some lady is enjoying those smilies in her emails.

Miss. Lady said...

Rashad the ladies love smilies. LOL! And that is your Dad he should be exempt from the rule.

sixfive said...

I'd give him a break on this one, considering how great this week has been.

maxwellsmusze said...

i agree with sixfive. he gets a pass this time. also, sending a smiley to a woman is never gonna cost him a thing.

Anonymous said...

there was this one time the instructor at my college had 2 smilies in an email he sent to me. i didnt know whether he was flirting or what. he was handsome too. lol

£ said...

....smiley faces after all of her(his) phrases

LOL rashad this post had me dying. don't begrudge your dad the smilies! besides the ladiez love them. lol

and the micheal(ugh) ray richardson quote is hilarious. I laughed a good two minutes after reading it.

I give this entry two enthusiastic thumbs up AND :-) :-) :-) :-) :-)

Jazzbrew said...

This is what happens when you get your copy of the man manual with pages torn out of it. I missed that rule...

rashad said...
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rashad said...

theradley files,
sly is better than biggie and bobby

ladies may love the smiles but i don't dammit

sixfive and maxwellmusze,
i will indeed grant him a pass

i hope you had sex with this instructor

doesn't that spelling of michael just annoy the shit out of you?

i'm here to teach my brother..

Janelle said...

cut your dad some slack. My mom sends text messages with LOL embedded. I just shake my head and accept the movement. hahahahaa

Chubbs said...

It's totally okay for a man to send another man a smiley face. In fact, it's sexist a little to think that only a woman can send a smiley face to a man. Smiley-faces spread joy. Is it okay for your dad to send you a sad-face? Because you know, that's the same emoticon, only with the mouth up-side down.

:-) (this should be okay...i'm a woman)

rashad said...

i want no happy or sad emoticons from my dad. its as simple as that. i can't bend the rules here. i'll admit that was a little sexist in terms of me mentioning what women can or cannot do..